No one is born knowing how to control and empty their emotions. For centuries, adults have learned to manage their emotions, yet, for every child, it takes a while before understanding and putting into practice those strategies.
In the time being, it is often the responsibility of adults, parents or guardian to nurture the little ones ability to control their emotions.
Life with the little ones has been recorded wonderful, hilarious, unpredictable and sometimes ridiculous.
Every child can puzzle behaviors and because they don’t have the words to explain how they feel or describe what they want, this frustrates them and can sometimes make them defenseless to being barreled by their feelings; emotions.
How we respond as parent or guardian to our little ones emotional meltdowns influence how they manage their feelings/emotions.
Emotions to children/little ones are like backpacks and as a parent/guardian, one of the key areas to be mindful of is helping your child emptying his or her emotional backpack.
Assisting the little ones in emptying their emotional backpack won’t only help them keep calm but also improve such child’s overall mood.
How to Tell When your Child has a Full Emotional Backpack?
If we, as an adult, can have a hard time with our emotions; which at times demand us to talk to a friend or partner, write in our diary/journals, or reflect on the day and its challenges, what could happen to the little ones who can’t process their feelings intellectually yet?
A child with a filled emotional backpack can be easily get upset, bossy, demanding, noisy, rigid, and sometimes looking to fight.
Do not blame them. All those hard feelings or emotions are just swirling inside and looking for a way out.
If your child is caught up in this feeling, he or she can act out the tiring feelings and all s/he can best think of is emptying the uncomfortable feelings.
HOW TO HELP YOUR CHILD EMPTY HIS OR HER EMOTIONAL BACKPACK
Before you consider helping your child, some important factors must be considered as an adult, parent, guardian, mother or father. Without these features, it will be a hard task to help the little ones empty their emotional backpack; which is an influence on how they (the little ones) will have a restful sleep.
Before Emptying Your Child’s Emotional Backpack;
- Mask yourself first
This is the first and significant element everyone must practice. For every attitude exhibited by a parent, be it the happy and the fractious state, your child will notice it all. Here is a thing about little ones which many overlook or are never aware of.
Little ones love to compete, and they will do anything to be the best at it.
So, as a parent/guardian, learn to reflect on how you respond on every moment, particularly before your children. Reflect before you act. Pause and breathe at intervals.
“Our perception of our children’s behavior will always dictate our responses,” says Janet Lansbury.
As a mother/parent/guardian, picture no emotion of your child as negative. Never put on a picture of ‘it is a ‘Negative Emotion’ before your little ones.
Always consider every emotion display as Valid and Real.
Do not to judge your child’s emotions.
It is your duty to help embrace, acknowledge, and understand their feelings for what they are.
When you perceive their emotional meltdown as an irritation, your reaction will probably be scolding or fury. When you tell them to pull themselves together when weeping, you will only send a message of suppression to them. When you withdraw when they are dealing with their emotion, you are only creating a fear of abandonment to them.
These reactions will only establish a distance between such child and their emotions also, it will damage the child and parent/guardian bond.
The little ones crave for acceptance. They want someone to love and value them regardless of their emotions. When you learn to embrace all shades of your child’s emotion, this will help you make it easy in setting things straight and releasing every unwanted emotion in their backpack.
3. Be Their Anchor
A filled emotion backpack can be consuming for a child.
It is your job as an adult, parent or guardian to create a safe space for your little ones to express their feelings freely.
Also, it is essential to guide them towards acceptable ways of handling emotions.
Before you think of how to empty their emotional backpack, here are two important things you must do as their emotion anchor:
Be present – Be there. Remain in the room and be their safety net.
Be stretchy – At first, your child may want to resist your help, that is okay. But remember that s/he really needs you at that moment.
Now that you know the few things to do before emptying your child’s emotional backpack , HOW can you give him/her a restful sleep ?
Good sleep is vital for your baby’s developing brain. Child sleeping disorder is a serious matter that can be life-threatening if not handled professionally and holistically; which is why it is not logical to consult just anyone for a solution to this issue.
For years, expert/professionals in the field have been recommended; as they alone can offer to you that perfect solution specific to your child; since every child has his/her variant issues leading to sleep disorder for them.
Thus, solution/ way out to giving a child a restful sleep by emptying his emotional backpack isn’t a routine or a one suit fit all. You should consult a professional to give you a corresponding solution to your child’s sleeping disorder.
Author Mary-Ann Schuler, a clinical psychologist and mother with over 20 years of experience in child psychology has a very detailed and educative presentation recently around this topic, in her presentation it sought to Guide parents with a simple and easy-to-apply solution to regulate the sleeping pattern of their children.
As a mother with a child having a sleeping disorder, you don’t want to miss this Educative presentation.